We joined KS some time ago with the intention of seeking a MFM. It's funny as you delve deeper into swinging how your tastes and preferences change as you find your feet and what does and doesn't work for you both.

After having ticked off a few MFM's in our early days we were presented with the option of a guy bringing a female friend with him. We hadn't planned on playing with women before and he still gave us the option of coming alone.. But we thought why not, let's see how this goes. Being fairly new to swinging we looked at it as another thing to tick off the list. As we had intended on having a MFM that night we put some rules in place which they were more than happy to follow.. The main one was I (Mr N) were off limits to them both, so the focus would be on Mrs N.

They arrived as a nervous couple and although had more swinging experience than us, I felt we were perhaps a lot calmer in the situation than they were. We had a few drinks to calm the nerves before moving things into the bedroom. This was a pure sex meet, we weren't interested in anything more so cut to the chase fairly quickly.

She was quite an attractive woman, tidy little body and a few years younger than us.. Her man went down on Mrs N while she watched closely. I feed my cock into Mrs N mouth and sat kneeing from a position where I could watch it all happen. The other woman saw an opportunity and swapped places with her partner.. Eating Mrs N while her guy entered her from behind. I won't go into too much more about that night but Mrs N really enjoyed the other woman in that encounter.. Which made us rethink what we wanted to try next.

After some discussion we decided to perhaps explore solo woman. Back then Mrs N was a regular in the chatroom on KS.. it probably wasn't long after that discussion she found herself in a private conversation one night with a woman only 10mins from us. She was married and had permission to play alone.. Our initial meet we requested her husband was in attendance so we would be able to check it was all OK with him. We went to dinner and discussed a few scenarios. By the end of the night he had given us his blessing to play with his wife.

A week or so after the dinner the girls went out for coffee alone.. They discussed the boundaries and to check in with each other before anything progressed further.. Comfortable after that meeting, we decided to plan a date to proceed with things. Again without going into much detail we both enjoyed our encounter with her.. Our first ever FMF.

This is about where we made the call to keep our search to woman only. Fast forward a few years and it's fair to say we have had a lot of luck in that search.. But... What next? A few years ago we started playing repeatedly with some woman and found we were building pretty solid connections.. Could there be more to enjoy than casual, fun encounters? We started joining dating apps with the intention of actually dating. We got Catfished, time wasted, dead ends, all the usual stuff.. Not always pretty but occasionally we found a gem which kept us going. However none of these ever blossomed into the relationship we were seeking. This was an ongoing search, years in fact, occasionally we threw in the odd night of fun but always had the search going for that something more.

In recent years we started slowing down on the ONS and found ourselves playing with a friend frequently (refer to our other story). While that was fun it was still missing the piece we wanted.. The relationship... Yes we had friendship.. But she was never going to be that full piece for us.

A few months ago we decided to rejoin one of the dating apps.. As usual it was slow, not a lot of profiles we were finding were jumping out at us. But there was one.. An attractive woman fairly close.. But initial thoughts were fake profile.. Surely this hottie isn't single.. But swiped on her anyway.. A few days later I log in to see we have a match.. It was the hottie! Still skeptical it was a fake profile I asked a series of questions to try catch her out.. It doesn't work.. Maybe she is real. After a little initial chatting I asked her if she would like to group chat somewhere else so my wife can feel apart of the conversation instead of reading my phone. We group chatted for a few weeks and learnt we had quite a bit in common. We needed to met this person, we decided to arrange a drink in a pub in Te Aroha on sunny autumn afternoon.

We arrived early into a pub full of local farmers looking out of place in our tidy/ casual attire amongst redbands and swanndris.. We were about 30mins early to the prearranged time so grabbed a drink and something to eat. As the time came closer for her arrival we received a text to say she was running late.. I'll admit the idea that we were about to get stood up went through my head, but we waited a bit longer.. Then another text.. She's at the wrong pub 🤣. At that point I'm like OK we are getting messed with here, but the wrong pub was only 200m up the road so gave her instructions and waited some more..

Next thing this tall, slim, attractive woman enters the bar and beelined it to our table.. If we didn't look out of place before we certainly did now!

She sits and immediately starts talking, no shyness or hesitation at all. I offer to grab her a drink from the bar (still in shock that this is a real person) while she quickly delivers me her drink order before immediately delving back into conversation with my wife.

We sat for hours talking, all the connection we had online just continued in person. We had great flow and found even more common ground. We discussed family, our swinging encounters, more of what we wanted and were looking for long term. Although she wasn't really sure what she was after she hadn't ruled out the idea of a relationship.. She had been single some time and hadn't had sex in 15mths 😱 (yes we were shocked at that statement) . We could have stayed a lot longer talking, we had so much to talk about! but we needed to make the small journey back home to our kids.. 3hrs went like 5mins in that pub and the day was getting late.

We said our goodbyes and started the drive home.

We immediately started talking about her in the car and that we felt a vibe there.. Of course you can never be sure how the other person is feeling though.. Perhaps we weren't for them and they were just being nice because they had also made the time and journey to meet? Then about 30mins into our drive home we received a message.

'thanks for a really nice first date, I'd really like to see where this goes'.

To be continued...