Is swinging right for me/us?
There are some things you will need to consider before you begin swinging. Is it something you want to experience for real or should it just remain a fantasy? Do you desire having sex with two people at once? Wish to experiment playing with the same gender? Do you want to see your partner play with someone else? Maybe you want to see each other enjoy the pleasures of playing with others?
So, you want to make your dreams a reality? That’s cool however, be certain that your relationship won't be compromised in the process. This isn’t a decision to be taken lightly and you both owe it to one another to carefully and fully discuss the possible implications of sex with other people. The decision of course must be taken by you both and with no pressure after having had time to understand all of the possible consequences. Honesty is the key here.
Now that you’ve had the cautionary advise,here are a few tips for exploring and entering the exciting world of swinging
Why do it? People begin swinging for many reasons. Understanding why you want to start is critical for its success, you may want to experience new and adventurous pleasures with your partner. Add some spice to a predictable part of your relationship. Fulfill some existing fantasies. Whatever reason you have, swinging won’t repair a failing relationship. For swinging to be successful you must have trust, communication and honesty.
How To Start Swinging
You've looked at the positives and negatives and understood the reasons for doing it, you’re now looking to start your journey. So, what do you do now?
In a world where you can find anything you desire on-line, sex and the many forms it offers are as simple nowadays as ordering take away food. Just like ordering food you must first decide what exactly it is that you desire or perhaps you're more open to having a buffet lol. Here are just a few options to gaining access to other like-minded people:
Private clubs
Dating sites
Personal sections of papers
Introduction by friends
Each has its own merits and of course pitfalls. Some people prefer one way over another, perhaps using some or even all of the above.
As we are a club for adventurous couples we will concentrate on only that. There are some major pitfalls of meeting swingers through media be it digital or print these can be:
Who am I really contacting
Free memberships severely limit your options
So many timewasters and false profiles
Security of your personal data
No control on who views your information
Endless emails back and forth
Lack of any spontaneity
Even if you're successful you will still need somewhere to play
What say you meet a couple, one of you just doesn’t fancy the other, very awkward.
