Learn the basics
The golden rule at any swingers party or club is that everyone there has the right to say NO and without question No Means No at all times. Some couples will have a 'safety word' that they will have agreed on before hand, however this is a bit 'old hat' as all swingers know the golden rule and must abide by it. Nevertheless, as new visitors, you might like the idea of a discreet word signal and of course that’s fine .
Always ask permission Clearly we stick to the ‘Golden Rule’ of ‘NO” means ‘NO’ however it makes total sense before engaging, to first of all simply ask the person or people you wish to play with if its all okay with them. Just don’t be offended any refusal or boundaries as this can make of an awkward situation.
Take a deep Breath. Relax
Everyone you meet at the club will of course been in your position as a ‘newbie’. As with any regular gathering of people, some are more forward and open to meeting new people and others may be more reserved. Most people you find are relaxed and used to meeting others so we suggest that you don’t hesitate to tell them you are ‘Newbies’
OK You've made it this far, then what now? well just be yourself and don't try to be someone you're not, as it can confuse the situation and others will pick up on it. When you're ready and feeling comfortable you can start chatting to people or if you're slightly more reserved you can always wait for people to approach you. The most important thing is you feel comfortable and in control of the situation. We do suggest you give yourselves anonymous ‘Club Names’ and that generally not ask specifics about other people such as ‘where do you work’ etc etc better to keep it nice & general……
Stay in your comfort zone
No one expects you to stray outside your comfort zone, any limitations you have set yourself you should stick to, for your first experience you might wish to just watch what is taking place before you, until you gain your confidence and feel relaxed enough to participate in anything yourself. No one expects you to do anything you don't feel happy doing. You are in control of yourself at all times.
