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Is it considered polite/acceptable NOT to reply to messages?
Surely though no one is actually under and pressure to do anything they don't feel like doing and that included replying to emails ?
I doubt I will ever hook up with anyone here (though never say never - lol) but that doesn't mean that I don't want to enjoy the site and the freedom that comes with being (virtually) surrounded by like minded people.
we have had a fair bit of experience with e-mail ping pong which eventually led nowhere but I think you need to accept that as par for the course. Swinging for the first time or indeed any time can be a nervous experience, what can a major turn on for people when you remain annonamous can turn to panic when the reality of a real meet sets in. People do get frightened and all you can do is let people take it at their own pace as swinging is always better when everyone is relaxed. Refusing someones invite to meet might seem to be an embarrasing thing to do but anyone who considers themselves a swinger will understand a simple NO THANK YOU without taking offence so please do reply to mails as it is polite and stops any confusion about wether you actually recieved the mail in the first place
I agree that alot of people just get off on the fantasy and the feeling of being 'naughty' but even so, that is no excuse for not replying to an e-mail or a message. After all, even messaging can be quite fun, even though I have not received a single one yet (only registered a few days ago tho!!). As for the fake photos it does make you laugh, why would I need a photo of Brad Pitt??? I look like him anyway ha ha
we have had a fair bit of experience with e-mail ping pong which eventually led nowhere but I think you need to accept that as par for the course. Swinging for the first time or indeed any time can be a nervous experience, what can a major turn on for people when you remain annonamous can turn to panic when the reality of a real meet sets in. People do get frightened and all you can do is let people take it at their own pace as swinging is always better when everyone is relaxed. Refusing someones invite to meet might seem to be an embarrasing thing to do but anyone who considers themselves a swinger will understand a simple NO THANK YOU without taking offence so please do reply to mails as it is polite and stops any confusion about wether you actually recieved the mail in the first place
Have to say we have had the same experiences of sending a lot of mail and having very few responses back again. We are complete newbies but very willing to meet and chat and then if the chemistry is right carry on. I think it is quite clear that real swingers understand a NO and we are certainly willing to respond to people etc. It is just rude not to reply at all. I also think it is detrimental to the site to ahve so many obvioulay false entries on the ssytem just to get numbers up. Maybe at the very first but they should be deleted now!
Have to say we have had the same experiences of sending a lot of mail and having very few responses back again. We are complete newbies but very willing to meet and chat and then if the chemistry is right carry on. I think it is quite clear that real swingers understand a NO and we are certainly willing to respond to people etc. It is just rude not to reply at all. I also think it is detrimental to the site to ahve so many obvioulay false entries on the ssytem just to get numbers up. Maybe at the very first but they should be deleted now!
I totally agree. I think that sites like these are always prone to attract "posers" but at the same time it is hard for the site to put controls over them. There is no real way of telling and I think that we are always going to have them around, which really sucks!!
On the other hand I agree that it is polite to respond t emails even if its just to say no thank you.
I think it's most impolite, that if people take the time to send an eMail and no response is given either way.....so far everybody I have communicated to, have always been prompt with some form of reply either way.....I suppose it's also along the ways of time wasters.....not having experienced this yet..but people ask me if I'll be a time waster from their previous experiences with others. I fail to see what people have to achieve in both of these situations.
I am a newbie at this, and I am starting to think that this is a real waste of time!!, Most of them are non-memebers whom you can't contact and there is no way of telling (when I search) that they are paid genuine members.... its seems like the site creators need to redefine what is meant by "members".
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rarely get a return one
gotta take it as granted at least 80% if not more profiles are fakes
dont take the place too seriously
if there is 1 thing wrong with this site it is the ignorance of over 80% of the people here when u have over 250 views on your profile and some of them over 30 times , it makes u wonder if they know how 2 even write a simple message LIKE HELLO HOW ARE U have now taken our photos of as i got the feeling that people on this site only want 2 perve at every ones galleries. have joined another site and have in 3 weeks had 3 couples email us and have meet 1 and meeting another on wed 5th Nov ,good luck 2 all the genuine people here as i havent heard from any of them yet
Hmmmmm wish I had read this before I paid!! lol it seems by reading this the site doesnt work very well. Has anybody had some really good experiences on here? We are complete newbies aswell here but are very genuine, just taking things one situation at a time, hope things start working out for some of you :-)
Good to read everyone's thoughts on this. We're newbies, and taking our time. The media hype about the dangers of meeting people on the net doesn't make you want to rush out and meet people in the flesh, so to speak. Nor does reading about fake pics and men posing as couples etc. What does help is communicating with experienced people who don't mind chatting about the lifestyle. For that this site has been good for us. In most cases we have replied to the messages we've received, and been pleasantly surprised by who we have 'virtually' met. I guess the single men out there who don't get a reply - well you have to admit it is a bit of a longshot.
We too are in the "taking our time" boat
the decision to reply is solely left to my wife as she is the more shy of the two of us so i want to be certain she is comfortable with who we liaise with and how.
The site does have a few short comings, but its really helped to open our eyes that there are genuine people out there
We cant wait to meet some of them once we are back on the prowl
We sure are hoping some nice people will be keen to have some fun with us 
Warming the Bed
honestly I have been a member quite a long now but havent had any experience or encounters here yet. Is it just people are here for wasting time. Even the chat thing is not working here on this site.
Warming the Bed
Im starting to think the majority of them are actually men posing as couples which seems a little strange and pointless to me. In my experience theres not alot of couples that are actually willing to meet up and just want to chat and swap photos on line but that gets boring eventually.
hey you two... bottleblondes here. new to this site, but if you are still looking, we are in west auckland and will not waste your time. looking for the fun we used to have...
hey you two... bottleblondes here. new to this site, but if you are still looking, we are in west auckland and will not waste your time. looking for the fun we used to have...
Warming the Bed
We're genuine!!??!!
you're not a paidmember so i don't know how to tell you that i like the sound of you two. much taller than me but that might be an advantage. we are in west auckland... sorry don't have a spa but we can go into town to club sparty where there is one. i love playing in water... well and out of water too. send us a message if interested, we will not waste your time.
from bottleblondes xx
you're not a paidmember so i don't know how to tell you that i like the sound of you two. much taller than me but that might be an advantage. we are in west auckland... sorry don't have a spa but we can go into town to club sparty where there is one. i love playing in water... well and out of water too. send us a message if interested, we will not waste your time.
from bottleblondes xx
hi we joined this site because we wanted to meet geniune people and so far we email and yes had a few emails back but we dont like it when we email people and dont get a response its very rude and inconsiderate a simple no thank you would be appreciated we havent met anyone one so far but that doesnt mean to say we wont because that is part of the reason for been on here is to meet new people we sort of new the swinging game and yes would like to experience more have had a bit of swinging experience before and 3sums but would like to have more so if you are looking at swinging by all means feel free to email us and have a chat as we would be more than happy to chat with anyone we are not shy and we dont want you to be either so come on and give us a try you wont be disappointed we can asure you of that
I'm a single male on this site. and I think it would be nice to get a "No thanks" back. You know where you stand. Sometime I think that e-mail don't go antwhere. I just want to meet new people an have some fun, but are the contacts or poeple real on this site?
I'm a genuine person and it clear that some people are not on the site, there no easy anwer.
