TL;DR:

Toby ♏ ♌ ♓ 🐅INFP-T

somewhere between otter twink and burgeoning daddy. pansexual. hedonist. stoner. nudist. anarcho-sydicalist. sex positive. cook. empath. satanist. psychedelic expeditionary. garden hermit. hypersexual. adhd & asd. kinky. pervert. few limits. zero taboos

Here simply to explore my sexuality and connect with the likeminded.

If you know me in real life and it's awkward for you to find me here, my advice is - just pretend you don't know me... 🤪

For those who like reading...

Born, bred and lightly sautéed in New Zealand. Interested in many and varied things: cooking, classic cinema, wide variety of musical styles from the entire 20th century, nature, plants, animals, sciences, astronomy, philosophy, politics, spirituality, crystals, astrology and esoterica, the occult, magick...and of course, sex. I am an INFP-T, if you're interested in such things, and I have ADHD/RSD. 🤪

Now. About sex huh?

Couples that play together, stay together.

Generally, I consider myself more wired for non-monogamy, but having said that, if the person and the relationship was right, I might be happy to commit to just one. Idk.

Anyway, sex needs to be normalised as casual. By that I mean...

Casual Sex:

(1) informal sexual interaction of a caring, but casual, nature between persons who have an ongoing mutually supportive relationship (philia), but are not romantically involved (amore);

(2) mutually pleasurable sex between friends where the relationship is defined by something other than romantic or sexual attraction.

definition taken from Liberum Sexus

I try to be open, receptive and understanding and, as such, am open to many things, most people, and almost anything with the right person. Life is too short to pretend you aren't into some kinky shit. I have something of a nudist and sex positive streak. I'm pretty hedonistic (in most senses), versatile, and a switch. I especially thirst to explore my Dominant side...it has been repressed for far, far too long (see my writing on this).

"Sexuality is not a leisure or part-time activity. It is a way of being." ~ Alexander Lowen

"Any man that does not realize he is half an animal, is only half a man" ~ Thornton Wilder.

Humans are innately sexual and it is both realistic and humane for us all to adopt a sex positive lifestyle and philosophy and encourage healthy exploration of sexuality for all. My view is that sex is completely natural and people need to embrace their sexuality without guilt or shame.

People are people.

Sex is sex.

I don't really care much about gender if we have a genuine connection and mutual affection. Bit of an androphile, that said. Big into dudes, especially trans ("a dude without a pussy is like an angel without wings"). But connect on the human level and all else will flow easily with me. I have been told that anything sexual I seem to take to like a duck takes to water. 🤪