I was on here before but I am not going to let shallow people get me down. I am going to have a good go at this one more time. I have been through some trauma and I am on here for healing purposes but to experiment more . I have dated a woman before but she died I have had one offs during my drug taking days yes I used to use drugs but I am proudly clean now 19 months Christmas just gone . I put bi curious people seem to be big on experience . I am looking for people that are willing to show me the ropes and be patient and understanding. I also mentioned previously that I do struggle with my punctuation and grammar due to been profoundly deaf due to birth and some other things which I will we connect I would love to experience a woman again solo obviously with your other half watching and obviously sharing as well . Or meeting a man or woman and we explore this together. I am a very sporty person I keep very active as you will see from my photos. I am very passionate about people from other cultures and countries I do NOT look at your appearance what you do for a job religion sexuality we all bleed the same when we cut ourselves.I see people as people I tell a lot from people’s profiles so if you shallow I want absolutely nothing to do with you . I am not into endless messages only genuine people message me and do not comment on my pictures unless you serious . I will not hestitate to block and report people who bully me or make fun of me you treat me with respect I treat you with respect. I do not host so do NOT ask so arrangements have to be made before we meet up . Also if you don’t have a good reason for canceling a date I will also report you for not turning up . I am a straight shooter what you see is what you get I do not pretend to be something I am not . I do have x rated pictures who I will only show to people who are interested in meeting and plan to meet not just no body shamers or shallow remarks you have nothing to complain about i went from a size 18 to a 10 so if I get any you fat remarks then you definitely not worth my time. Yes drugs have taken some of my appearance but that is because I used drugs all my life . I am looking preferably for long term on a regular basis but I don’t mind testing the waters until the right people come along . I look forward to hearing from you . I am ready to play and explore . I know this maybe too much for people but I believe in being honest straight from the get go so I am opening myself up to potential bullies and nasty people. Also I am from South Africa 🇿🇦 so I would love to hear from some fellow South Africans who are into the lifestyle I am from Johannesburg and please do not judge me based on that i do love living in NZ and the opportunities she gives me . I do support the springboks in rugby as it’s my birth country and one of my relatives represented them I don’t support the All Blacks for my own reasons so if that bothers you move along I am wearing a springbok singlet that I hadn’t worn in years in my private pictures I do support NZ in other sports. In fact in cricket i support them over South Africa because i only started watching cricket here in nz and the black caps made me fall in love with cricket and sports teams don’t run NZ . I should have the freedom to choose and I am open to hearing from other expats from around the globe who live in this beautiful country. Don’t judge a book by its cover and I will not hesitate to put someone in their place if need be within reason postive comments and ppl only please . Please read before commenting or messaging thank you I do NOT use , so please don’t ask . Do not look down on me because i have to overcome many obstacles until you have experienced things like deafness you have no idea i don’t know and i will never know what it’s like to have natural hearing . I am NOT mute or stupid I can talk with my hearing aids all I ask is you talk clearly and do not shout or talk slowly deliberately or use big letters when messaging on here or marks like !!!! It’s offensive and upsetting to the deaf community and hard of hearing People need to be aware of this because I don’t want people assuming I am not with it because of my communication my disability doesn’t define me just because I don’t “ splash “ naked pictures of me all over my public album doesn’t mean I am boring or plain Jane or not sexy I feel that is Attention seeking type behavior and narcissistic and to me it doesn’t do anything for me besides I don’t have the confidence yet behind the camera so when I meet the right people I may ask them to take some pictures for my private album and consent and I will share with who I choose to share.