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Sex_is_fun
1 month ago
Straight Male, 54
Bi-curious Female, 54
0 km · Southland
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Great fun night had by all.
Thanks to those who came along.
the next BIG event is in the planning stages.
It is to be Halloween most likely in Queenstown.
So it is probably the Saturday 26th October or 2nd November 2013
Swingers Party (Southland and Otago)
When Saturday 1st June 2013
7:30pm
Theme: Fancy Dress - less is best
We are full to capacity. 10+ couples think we are over capacity by 2 or 3
If you are really keen drop us a line and we will see if we can make room.
Sorry we have had to postpone this event.
A chance for southern couples to meet others in the region.
Where: A bar in the Invercargill area. To be advised via text.
You can stay after 8pm on if you want like, but the time is to allow people to attend other events/committments on this evening.
You can stay after 8pm on if you want like.
This is an opportunity to put faces to profiles and maybe may some new friends.
If you are just starting out it is an easy way to meet real people and chat about the lifestyle.
:giveup:, Hitachi Wand :smitten: :giveup:, We Vibe 3:thumbup:, Rabit Vibrator
Although the Sqweel is good at timesWhile we would agree that some may well stay together for financial reasons or because of their children, we have not seen any coreleation to swinging, especially not sucessful swinging.
We have seen numerous couples, who tried swinging because they they thought this might help.
Almost without exception it destroyed what little relationship they had left.
In our experience the vast majority couples who swing are long term couples who are very happy and in love with their partner. It is about fun and excitement, with zero emotional input. It is a purly physical act and aboput not fulfilling a need or replacing something that is missing in their relationship.
If anyone has to force themselves to get excited about their own partner, we feel really sorry for them.
Why would you even bother?
If your partner is the right person it is not a commitment, it just becomes right.
Why would you fix it if it aint broken?
There is no need to be looking or move on after a few years.
The thing is we can look, and in many cases have....no reprocussions
Being together might mean marriage, might not.
Swinging does provide the opertunity to have sex with different people, and this can be exciting, but it does not even come close to with ones own partner when the combination of love and sex come togehter.
We have been notified:
$110 Couple + Single Male (max 5 only)
NOTE: Due to feedback, this option is under review.
Your feedback is requested.
Couples if you are intending to come please post your choice here or let us know in a message.
From SE: "This is your event. You make the rules"
So have your say.
Limited to 40 Couples
Price $60 Couple, $30 Single Female, $110 Couple + Single Male (limited to first 5 only)
If it is anything like the last one they will go quick.
Contact us as we are not sure if was can state here where to buy your tickets.
Or sign up under swingers parties
<<<< and we will get in touch.
See you there.
We are trying to get a hotel deal. If we can get something better than WOTIF or similar we will let you know
Thanks to all the sexy couples who came along and made it a fantastic night.
It will be happening again.....
Sybian, hitachi wand, dance pole, private rooms and fun sexy people
There are people coming from all over New Zealand.
More information is available Sensual Events and Risque Events.
Google will find them.
Contact us if you cant.
The theme: A Sexy Cocktail Evening
Date: 29th September 2012
Location: Queenstown CBD
You may change at the venue, as some outfits maybe a bit too revealing to wear on the street.
This is a great way to meet genuine people in a no pressure safe environment.
(you do not have to do anything or participate in any way if you do not want to)
Our exectations are nothing more than that.
Just meeting for drinks or a coffee, nothing more, nothing less.
You cant get to know people from behind a keyboard.
We never agree to a play date before we have met in person.
While still at the meeting we may offer a play date to some, to most we wont.
We normally discuss this in private together before deciding, so the decision is later.
We agree with above, you must get used to rejection and not take it personally.
We never give a reason for saying no thanks, and we dont want to know the reason from others for a no thanks.
Knowing the true reason for being rejected could make things awkward in the future if/when paths cross.
But the main reason for not giving giving or wanting a reason is this:
Times, people, crtieria, choices, situations, experience, choices, reasoning.......it all changes and develops.
A number of those who were "no thanks" are now good friends and playmates.
The chances are we would not be if we (or them) had known of the reason for rjection at the time.
Unfortunaly being "approached by the single guys just after a shag with my wife" is quite normal.
Some dont understand what is required and that a connection must be made before anything else.
We have to wonder if they use the same approach with single women?
I dont believe it would be sucessfull.
most use the shot gun approach. They send as many messages like that and one might return a yes - while pissing everyone else who recieves one off.
That said if the words/messages and being aproached is "really off putting for us to step further into the swinger scene", we would urge you to consider your reasons for entering or wanting to enter the swinging scene.
Swinging is ultimatly about sex.
That is some very good points.
Respect at all times.
It all starts with reading the profile and respecting peoples choices.
Messages such as those you mention and/or un-requested PM's of the same type, immediately proves that the sender dont/wont respect our rules or boundaries.
Why would we ever invite someone or even be interested in someone who so blatantly has no respect for our rules?
The assumptions and politeness of some males leaves a lot to be desired.
Many do not understand that just because swingers have sex with others, this does not mean they want to have sex with you.
Swinging is not a free brothel.
There seems to be train of thought that couples swing because their sex life is not good.
The exact opposite is normally true. Swinging is an enhancement and in addition to, not insted of.
Many couples do entertain single males but will never make it known publically because of the many BS messsages/demand/insults they recieve, especially when they reject someone.
We define swinging as the consensual sharing of ones partner. (everyone has their own definition)
We think of it like this;
A couple shares each other with other partners. They are swinging.
If that sharing with with another couple, both couples are swinging.
If a couple shares with a single (male or female) The couple is swinging, but the single is not, because they are not sharing a partner.
The single is participating in a sexual encounter with swingers.
So guys you need to be invited into the situation, there is no other way.
Couples can choose from the many many choices out there for male playmates.
For many the main pleasure is enjoying their partner having a good time, not the the pleasure they get themselves.
Women control the swinging world.
If you are a couple and the female partner does not want to swing, the chances are that you will not swing.
Women get invited to all swinging events. Their partners/husbands/etc are lucky enough to have such open ladies (and yes they are - make no mistake) who take them along.
It is the same for the male 1/2 of a couple as it is for sinlge guys. They find it very difficult to get inited to an event alone.
In our experience most couples only play together and are looking for the same.
Hopefully this is some food for thought.
We get tested regularly as part of our participation in the swinging lifestyle, as do the vast majority of others we know.
We believe it is important for the protection of both our health and that of any partners. Even though we use condoms 100% of the time. Accidents can happen.
The situation:
You are going to attend a swinging event where sexual activity takes place.
You hosts inform you:
Free STI testing has been made available at the event. (It is optional if you have the test or not)
Yes = We/I still would attend
(we would like to know; would you get tested or not and your reasons if you car to share them?)
No = We/I would now not attend (we would like to know your reasons if you would share them)
The reason for the poll:
Some event organisers have been approached by DHB's to offer free testing at events.
Before offering the option we want know if swingers would support it.
We would go to the event and have the free test. We get tested anyway so it saves another trip and/or appointment.
We had 24 couples and a few lovely single ladies attend.
The feed back has been fantastic, especially from some of the new couples (first time at any swingers event)
A great time was had by all.
Thank you very much to all those who attended and to Kiwi Swingers (admin and moderators) for their support.
Regards
G&C
