I am European and a decent guy. I'm clean. I'm safe, and I'm well endowed for those who care. I'm sapiosexual and legitimately heteroflexible (can have genuine fun with guys but I don't actively seek them out). I'm educated and a nerd. I have a lot of zest for life and I can't squeeze enough juice out of it. Related, my biggest vice is getting enough sleep and letting go from wanting to do things.

I'm a person with big dreams. One of them is a simple one, but it is a powerful and subtle undercurrent in my life, that is, to live an ordinary life and have a home (this arises from a tough childhood and anything but a normal upbringing). Having endured a tough and complex childhood, I'm now a well-functioning person, highly educated and I have a professional career. My dispositions attract me to finish training as a psychotherapist one day (I’d love to be a sex therapist along the lines of the ‘sexual crucible approach to human differentiation’ - see the book ‘Passionate Marriage’). At the moment, I’m bringing this part of myself to my work as a public servant through training to become a leadership coach.

I am in an open relationship, so happy to chat since I am ethically nonmonogamous, sex and slut positive. To provide some more context, I was previously in a long term poly triad, so I am poly-capable in my heart, but I don’t live a full-on poly life for practical reasons. I’m happy to talk about it and my lessons learned, but fear not, I’m not running around falling in love with everyone or creating any drama. My heart is open while also experiencing ‘enough-ness’, so feel fulfilled in my romantic life. I’m not looking to replace my girlfriend. What I am doing is owning my own sexual needs, and one of them is sexual freedom and agency - having an intentional space to behave. And what I am looking for is sexual pleasure, appreciation and expression, and to seek out what turns me on most: transgression (within safe and consensual parameters).

I’m adventurous and looking to connect with people who can be sex-positive friends with benefits. I've been in two relationships in the 8 years prior to my current one, and they were characterised by me negotiating nonmonogamy with monogamous women - I've learnt it just doesn't work. I'm now in a relationship with a sex-positive girl that gives me space to play separately. So I’m here to find playmates, friends, lovers, companions in crime that appreciate the love language of exploration, shared adventuring and playfulness (as discussed in the book 'Open Deeply'). Needless to say, I’m a top in my relationship - for those who care about kink.

I'm into connection, available for intimacy (though not seeking love or drama), happy with casual NSA experiences, and I'm a good conversationalist. I love to sexualise sex and make it hot, dirty and messy. I can be dominant or submissive. It depends on the person I am spending time with. I've got a rich fantasy life, a lewd mind and I like dirty talk, roleplay and making up hot stories and scenes. Last but not least, I like open sexual spaces: threesomes, watching and being watched. I'm definitely voyeuristic and I love watching a girl I have a connection with or love (even better!) with others. I respect the people I play with.

With play partners I always look for (and I offer) the four things:
1. good judgment
2. being in working order (as a person)
3. GGG (good, giving, game)
4. emotionally mature