1)  I am after friendships/relationships/occasional alone time with a special lady, yes just the lady only. 

2)  Or friendships/relationships/occasional alone with a couple (NO SINGLE guys) who are married and/or open and honest with each other.  And both into this as much as the other.   

And for the above, please be in the age range of, over 25 and under 58, smell nice, preferably hair less in the right places, respect oneself and live life for the enjoyment of it.  Whilst I don't mind a bit of padding I really don't find overly heavy people very attractive.

I work in IT, and mostly love my job, though I do too many hours.   I do love to be creative.  Some of the things I have tried are: Lead lighting, furniture restoration, cake decorating, etc etc.  Love D.I.Y.

I split my time between Paraparaumu beach on the Kapiti Coast and Wellington, so either of those locations is fine for me.  5 nights in Kapiti, 2 nights in Wellington (Wednesday's and Thursdays). 

I keep tropical fish, we also have two cats and a blue tongue lizard, so I do love animals, not so much into dogs though, unless they have been trained well, and smell nice.

I like most types of music, and play the flute.   I read my kindle rather than watch TV.  Though have been known to cuddle up on the couch and watch a good movie.  

I am very happily married and we are in an open honest relationship, we are Polyamorous.  He doesn't play, so its just me.  He's very much a one on one person, and has a lovely girlfriend with my blessings.  He is my primary concern, I love him more each day.  

Note my membership has reduced back to free, and as I don't come on here often now, I can only reply to a couple of emails a day, so please remember I may not always be able to reply straight away.