I think on a swingers forum, you shouldnt expect anything, I certainly dont think I/we are entitled to a response, or a particular type of response.

You're talking about a complex situation of people watching / letting / encouraging someone else to fuck / share their partners.

We came into this as a couple, and whatever we do together, we are doing a couple. So what we want, and how we want to go about things with each other comes first. I owe explanations to my partner, and nobody else. I dont think others owe us anything either - sometimes we talk to people for a bit then it stops through a variety of ways - that's  fine,  because I recognize that they're a person, or a couple with a life and relationships that come before me and my partner.

They owe me nothing.

when you do find people that things work out with, its great. but ultimately, nobody on here owes me a damned thing, and they've every right to ignore / block / stop talking to me in any way, and for any reason they please, and as far as Im concerned, Ive no right to demand, or expect an answer, response or explanation.

I just wait until I encounter someone else that Im interested in and start again.